Dating Games and Disappointments, On- and Off-Line: Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker Helps Identify Obstacles to Relationship-Making
New relationships used to get off to more comfortable starts because respect, consideration, and life-cycle stages seemed to matter. Each person involved (or wanting to be) had incentive to keep things going—sought greater interdependence and collaboration (believed in a better quality of life as a "two"). Today, distractions and alternative options are more alluring than working on what’s infront of you—and got good possiblities. Eyes wander more than ever before—if not in actuality, virtually.
Cyber—cheating prevents many new connections from growing as they might have, easy "escapism" too available. High potential matches are stumped before they are started. Serious daters (looking for a monogomous long-term relationship) dance with serial daters (those ever-seeking perfect and better). Once serial daters get what they think they want, it looses appeal and the chase becomes more exicting than the catch. On to the next! Some endings are abrupt. Others "fade away," one (cowardly) person knowing what they’re doing, the "worthier other" being left disappointed or surprised.
There used to be a commonly followed "three-date" practice (not to judge too quickly). Today, even second chances are hard to come by. If someone isn’t perfect—better quality than the person ruling them out, from the very first encounter or because of an "off-moment"—there’s no hope for continuity or tolerance. Why waste time with someone who might be human—have as many flaws as you do? A quick fix, rather than hard work (as necessary for most everything else) prompts expectations…and disappointments.
Bravo to "Bravo" for alerting us to Patti Stanger’s Millionaire Matchmaker team! Thanks for displaying that guys one would think "apppropriate" aren’t necessarily ready—still fantasizing over unrealistic catches, or need "fine-tuning." A show that is "out-of-the-box" in its showcasing of a service that attempts to coddle those who pay to seek what even money can’t buy. That aside, Patti’s Dating Commandments are worth checking out (millionaire or not).
