Let’s be realistic—and honest. Standards are set very high these days by what we think is true, but actually isn’t. Magazine touch-ups are an obvious way to recognize how what’s raw and real gets distorted and embellished.
Lindsay Lohan is an over-played but obvious example. First, let’s take a look at her Elle (September 2007) cover photo, which is only the latest in a series of magazine cover photos. Then, let’s take a look at her July 24 (07) police mug shot. Show business would have her appear one way. The law clearly shows her another way…
How has Lohan gone from that to this or this to that? Is it fair to blame someone/thing else? Is it even fair to blame her, or her family, friends, and entourage? Is it our business, anyway? Not really—except if she’s a danger to others, which is highly likely with an arrest for drunk driving and cocaine possession. But, then again, DUI, is no big deal these days—or so it seems for young celebrities.
Paris Hilton, after her promises to stop partying after her DUI jail time, was soon back to her frivolities. Then there’s her off-on "best friend," Nicole Richie, also up for DUI jail time. Apparently, a boyfriend and pregnancy are the "two major influences" that will break the "bad ‘pattern’" in her life. Imminent motherhood, she believes, will make her more responsible. But, shouldn’t she be more responsible first, in order to merit being a mother? A tad confusing! Or, maybe, not. We’ve all heard about Britney Spears, and seen how she defends her motherhood foibles.
Sadly, in a society where decent role models don’t seem to get the news coverage they deserve and appropriate consequences are sorely lacking, anything seems to go and be acceptable. No press is bad press, especially when it can generate $$$$$.
Some people are seen to have it all, and squander what they have. Others have very little, but are genuine—turn out better human beings, no limelight necessary.
Why would we want to emulate images/icons that are contrived and fleeting—represent actualities that only exist on a glossy page, offering glimpses of what might never be possible or sustainable?
The "too good to be true" is around us everywhere. Sometimes, we ignore it. Other times, we’re ready to be taken in by it. It all depends on how vulnerable (and/or gullible) we are. Self-esteem, need, greed, and fear can cloud judgment, as does peer pressure and bullying. So, finding ways to keep things in perspective—not relying on perception being reality—is important. Be aware:
1. Promises are only as good as those who make them.
2. What happens quickly can unhappen more quickly.
3. Even it’s free now, you’ll be paying for it later (and probably a lot more).
4. The easier it is, the less value and longevity it might have.
5. Telling the truth might get you into trouble. Not telling it can get others into trouble. And, when others are in trouble, you may no longer call the shots—they will.
6. Just because you’re sure of yourself, it doesn’t mean others are sure of you. And, when you’re sure of others, you might not be sure of yourself.
We all want to think the best, dream of a better tomorrow, and have hope for the future. It’s a natural survival instinct! However, what’s more important is to know where, how, and when to draw the line—not be taken in by ourselves, as well as others. Regardless, we never know how long we have, or how forces beyond our control might change everything in an instant. Take, for instance, the bridge collapse in Minnesota—a sad reminder and wake-up call, like most unexpected tragedies, to stop dwelling on the superficial (and those who are impressed by it).