“MOTHER’S Day” for the Disconnected
Mother’s Day was last weekend. Another hard holiday for many—those who don’t have a mother, or are at odds with her, and those who long to be a mother but haven’t been able to have that experience happen. Just like on other holidays such as Valentine’s Day and New Year’s, more people than you might imagine feel left out or envious of those en route to gatherings or carrying flowers.
Options that might provide distraction or relief on Mother’s Day, for those who aren’t part of the celebration, include:
1. Catching up on work.
2. Getting together with friends in similar situations.
3. Enjoying something fun (like a sports activity, shopping trip, or massage).
Places that it might be better for non-celebrators to stay away from include:
1. Family style restaurants and other solo-unfriendly gathering places.
2. Family parties (if they’re uncomfortable).
3. Stores that are full of memorabilia (gifts and cards) specific to the day.
It’s amazing how one "special day" can become a huge dread and ordeal for some, and bring about immense joy and happiness for others. Also, it’s often hard for those who aren’t familiar with loss or longing to understand those who are.
Those who are lucky enough to be able to celebrate "special days" might like to:
1. Not assume anything about, or judge, those who could be having a difficult time.
2. Appreciate the privilege of being able to celebrate with others and not take this for granted.
3. Be mindful of non-celebrators’ feelings, selecting sharings (about personal celebrations) carefully.
